Longing for Family and Home

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Nostalgie

This song is running through my mind. Nostalgie by Julio Iglesias on Spotify

I suffer from “nostalgie”. The sadness in Julio Iglesias’ voice matches my own mournful feelings. I have been home for nine weeks. I am sad. I miss Jordan. I miss Egypt. I miss my new family of strangers that bonded on the tours.

I quit studying hieroglyphs again at about week 4 or 5, had to focus on other things. Thought maybe focusing on other matters would not change my sense that all is right in the world. It would be a brief break. That was a mistake. The fatalism of the past came back.

Then came another freeing moment, understanding it was a pattern. When I studied Egypt, I would stop.  Egyptology made me sad because it was impossible to be there. This was a recurring pattern in my life. Over the years, finances and safety concerns were legitimate reasons to postpone any sort of meaningful exploration of Egypt. Now that I see it, this should give me the power to overcome it. I broke the cycle once already.

I will go back.

Dipping my toe back into the pool of Egyptology, and whoa….it hit me. Honestly, I have been getting so sad, missing my family who live a thousand miles away, and more, but inside the same country and on the same continent as me. I can make a way to see them, touch them, smell their hair. You know, once a mother. But at the same time, I miss Egypt and Jordan, and my friends. At this very moment, I miss my family who live in my house. It is a torn feeling, all this nostalgie.

This longing for family is not only happening to me. We do what we can to span the miles. This post is self-indulgent, but maybe it will help some of my family and friends who are experiencing similar yearnings for home, family, and connection.

Loved ones move on to their own next adventures. They move out of the house, across town, far away, and even further, they leave this life. Separation is part of the human experience.

Longing for what we love is part of the human condition. In December, my family book club read Bill Bryson’s “A Walk in the Woods: Rediscovering America on the Appalachian Trail”. Bryson reports his own experience of competing longings as a result of his remarkable adventure. I got it. I get it.

Towards the end of his book, he comes to terms with the complicated feelings, like pride, disappointment, realism, aspiration, satisfaction, that surround what is an endurance test and intense bonding experience in a new frontier. Even so, it isn’t over for him. He commits to hitting new goals that he never new he had before going on that hike.

This post was in the queue for February. I didn’t post it or much for a while. Now it is April. Even though I have written it and rewritten it, the sentiments remain true.

Reading Bill Bryson was supposed to be a light read. It turned out to be just what I needed to get me back on track.

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Always and Forever

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Always and Forever is part of my internal soundtrack. The one from Heatwave, and sure, Luther Vandross. Call me schmaltzy if you like, I accept the title. Those first few bars started playing when I thought, “What is my next post?” And the answer was “Always and Forever…Wadi Rum”.

Wadi Rum is a place like that. It has this feeling of always and forever that came through the flickering uncertain image of a broken black and white t.v. when I was 8 years old.

I was the only one who could get that t.v. to work long enough to watch even a few minutes. It was a challenge to be able to watch a half-hour show, and less than an hour had been my greatest achievement.

There was art, science, and magic to making this t.v. work. First, you turned the dial looking for promising static that meant you might be able to get fully dialed in, then you fiddled with the rabbit ears, then you fiddled with the horizontal and vertical controls. If you got it to hold, you held your breath. Someone might have to stand near the rabbit ears. The merits of aluminum foil extensions had to be weighed. Somehow, while celebrating the success of watching something else for about 10 minutes, there was an ad for that night’s feature film, none other than that great British film, “Lawrence of Arabia“. I begged to have sole custody of the t.v. It was so important to me. The rest of the family was pretty much disinterested, so I got my wish.

What bliss. What great bliss. That is what that film was to me. It was almost as if I didn’t need the t.v. to see, hear, and feel it. I alternately forgot to breathe and inhaled the visions of the desert. The sandscapes were sublime and the music transportive. I was there. So, that was a beginning. There was no doubt that one day, I would find a way to stand in those places and be where these people and things were. It was just a matter of time. Decision made, oh roughly in 1967.

With the passage of over fifty years and all the stars in alignment, decision realized. My trip to Egypt offered the add-on of a few days in Jordan. I saw “Petra” and “Wadi Rum”, and I was in. Could this trip to Wadi Rum possibly come close to what I feel every time I watch Lawrence of Arabia? I could not know, but I was open to what might come.

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We were in Jordan, traveling by bus down Highway 15, and a little bell went off in my head. It hit me that I hadn’t been noting the highways and populated places along the way. Everywhere around us is history, if we know what to look for. Still on the road, we started seeing places and locations where some events of the Arab Revolt of WWI unfolded. Yes, T.E. Lawrence was here. Not long ago, I had read that archaeologists are still picking up debris from WWI, just lying along the old railroad bed. I wanted to say, “Stop the bus! We need to get off here.” Our Jordanian Tour Guide, Omar, began talking about the Arab Revolt and he pointed out distance markers, relating that to Lawrence teaching military tactics to the Arab fighters. Omar continued to reference scenes from the film as he spoke about Wadi Rum.

We got to the place where the Wadi Rum tour began, got off the bus and climbed into small pickup trucks. This truck ride in the desert was slow enough to allow us to savor the scenery, but not slow enough to be boring. It was also tantalizing, because I wanted to see more, do more, in short, I wanted to explore. Our time in Wadi Rum was only a few hours.

Tour Coordinator Thomas and friends at Wadi Rum.

We rode in the back of pickup trucks. We drove past an overnight camping location that had some basic amenities, like toilets and generators. I climbed up a sand dune, but only part way.

Friend Lisa demonstrates one technique to get to the top of this dune. For perspective, just look at the legs of people in the background.

We experienced Jordanian Bedouin hospitality in a tent where they gave us tea and hoped to sell us mementos. This was a welcome moment away from the occasional gusting wind… and the camels.

The camel herd was nearby, once again confirming my allergy to camel herds. It is as much the died woolen blankets as the excreta of the camels. I was suffering from the first days of a case of bronchitis, caught from a traveler in Alexandria a few days before. The cold meds kept me going, but it sapped me of strength.  Still, nothing could block the smell of the camels. This elicited some very hard sneezing, not a promising sign for my future as a camel jockey.

This Bedouin camp, tourist shop, camel herd location was also adjacent to some petroglyphs where viewing platforms had been erected for the safety of tourists, and I think, for the protection of these treasures from careless or curious hands and feet.

We left the Bedouin camp in our little pickup trucks, and the drive was as serene as an open-air pickup truck caravan can be. We enjoyed the ever changing and ever new landscape as the last rays of the sun were filtering over the horizon.

The beautiful sunset exploded into a horizon of glory.

Wadi Rum Sunset

As I write, the score by Maurice Jarre is filling my mind. The soaring and plaintive motif is what mesmerizes me most. I can confirm that Wadi Rum feels like that and more. That afternoon the place was resonant with apparently inaudible music. How else to describe it? It may be that as air currents move around the mountain crags, they create sound waves our ears don’t hear but the body feels.

Was this the trip to Wadi Rum that I needed?  It was an excellent first trip for me. Many travelers will surely feel sated if they are under the excellent care of a world class tour company, like I was. Our Tour Coordinator Thomas and Tour Guide Omar made sure, once again, to orchestrate perfect moments for us. Travelling with friends made this all the more special.

This wikipedia page for Wadi Rum is a good approximation of the experience. We didn’t do any rock climbing!

Have you been to Wadi Rum? I would love to hear your impressions of the place and the people.

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Day … One?

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Day One – What is Day 1?

At first I thought these posts would be chronological, starting with Day 1 of my Royal Egypt Tour with Archaeological Paths. My Day 1 included the Add-On tour that some of us took while other folks were settling in at the Marriott Mena House Hotel, Cairo. But honestly, “Day 1” was sometime and somewhere before November 2022, when I boarded the plane in D.C.

One of the views from Marriott Mena House, Cairo. It was very cool to have breakfast, lunch, and dinner with these masterpieces.

Was Day 1 the travel day from D.C through Vienna, to get to Egypt? When I landed at the Cairo airport? Maybe it was the “pre-tour museum add-on day” when I saw excellent museums? Or was it in February 2022, when I decided that no matter what, I was going to Egypt in 2022? All genuine beginnings.

Something applied impetus before that. I was hoping to go in 2020 and then 2021, because Dr. Zahi Hawass, the most famous Egyptologist in the world, was sponsoring tours, and on his tours, Jehan Sadat, the widow of Anwar Sadat, was meeting with people in her home!

My interest in Egypt and the Near East goes back to my early childhood when The Sphinx, The Great Pyramid, and the Pyramids of Giza, captured my imagination and were part of my reality before I could read. I shed tears while reading and re-reading Howard Carter’s book about Tutankhamun. Did that happen to you? Then there was the first time I saw Lawrence of Arabia. A lot of people around the world grow up feeling a strong connection to Egypt and the Near East. I met some of them on my tours. You might be one of us, too.

Egypt called to me. Jordan called to me. I answered.

Here is the itinerary for just the Royal Egypt Tour, run by Archaeological Paths. Dr. Zahi Hawass has been the face of these tours for a few years now. We also had the honor of Dr. Mostafa Waziri’s company on several occasions. This was an intense and exhilarating tour. Almost every day was filled with archeological and historical experiences. Just look at the Day 1, “Cairo Museums Add-On”. Looks so quaint, “Oh we’ll just go to a couple of museums.” Those museums were amazing and Thomas, our Tour Coordinator and Shareif, our Tour Guide were the best. I would go back to Cairo just to spend weeks in those two museums, the oh so historically significant pink Egyptian Museum aka “Egyptian Museum of Antiquities” and the new and glorious National Museum of Egyptian Civilization “NMEC“.

If you scroll to the bottom of the itinerary, you will see I was in the Horus group. This was fortuitous, because several of us were already becoming friends.

These two trips, Royal Egypt and the Jordan add-on, were phenomenal. This blog post was not requested by Archaeological Paths and they aren’t paying me to say nice things about them. Thomas, our Tour Coordinator and Shareif, our Egyptologist Tour Guide, Dr. Hawass, and Dr. Waziri were what made this a grand experience. They and all the people who were part of these tours, the planners, guides, Egyptologists, drivers, locals, scholars, and my lovely tour family are why I am sharing this with you.

Please go ahead and click on the links in the blog. You will see that I travelled Egypt in luxury and comfort amongst the world’s leading Egyptologists, visited palaces, met with elder statesman Dr. Moustafa Elfeki, visited museums, cruised the Nile, and also crawled and climbed up, through, and around temples, tombs, and pyramids.

Strangers became friends and I thanked my new friends for going to Egypt and Jordan with me.

If you have had comparable travel experiences, I would love to hear about them.

If you have questions, I will try to answer them.

Thanks,

Mary

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“Travels in the Near East”

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Welcome!

Welcome to my blog, “Post Haste”. This blog has been waiting for me to share it with the world since 2019. Thank you for coming here to help me launch it.

There are so many things that I find interesting, that I never have a shortage of ideas for content. What I have lacked was for a few things to come into alignment, such as a topic that would keep me focused, the time to write, and the mindset for commitment.

My travels in the Near East in November, 2022 provide me with a focus for creativity, and a strong need to capture and share my thoughts. I took the time to explore some of my favorite parts of the world, so I will make the time to tell you about it.

Dead Sea Mud

Getting my Dead Sea Mud on – completely unanticipated pleasure!

While planning my travels to Egypt and Jordan, I also became excited about using this trip as the springboard for Post Haste. When I got back to the U.S., I was a little surprised how many people really wanted to hear about my travels. I wanted to tell stories and share observations, but it became an impossible task to do that by ones and twos. So, in order to not be unfair, I had to just tell folks, “It is too much to tell, so I will blog about it.”

Not that I haven’t wanted to try to bend everyone’s ear whom I encounter. These travels were important and rich experiences for me. Maybe I would have been excused if I had cornered strangers on the street so I could share some important insight. Imagine me grabbing some guy by the lapels and being right in his face with, “You have got to go to Wadi Rum!” Luckily for those strangers, I knew this blog was waiting for me.

So, we will start Post Haste with “Travels in the Near East”.

This is going to take a while. Thank you for joining me on this virtual trip.

Mary